This week, in a fair few groups I am currently running, people have shared with me that the past few months haven’t been their “best” ever food-wise. I can sympathise.
Hormones? Changing seasons? Recent life changes? Something larger and far more cosmic than meets the eye?
I believe it’s a different set of reasons for everyone, but one thing I can tell you this: we usually learn far more from what doesn’t work for us than we do from what does!
Traditionally, as a people, we have got very used to beating ourselves whenever we’ve made food choices that aren’t in line with what we’ve aspired to do. We’ve “beaten ourselves up”, used negative language towards ourselves, and have usually ended up feeling even more overweight and unhappy than when we first started.
Sometimes it can take us years to figure out that this isn’t actually the best approach to take! In fact, in all fields of life, whether they be personal or professional, I doubt that there is one person alive who can say that they’ve never messed up, or gone against their intuition, or “let their hair down” or “fallen off the wagon” in some way – and not just one time but multiple times throughout their life.
That’s just not likely and it’s just not human.
In many of my previous coaching programs I’ve focused on four different but very key aspects of upping raw food intake. The first, and by far the most important building block is “awareness”. The perfect starting place for this is to spend an entire week simply eating whatever you want – cooked or raw – and then pay extra-special attention to your thoughts, feelings and sensory feedback as you make various different food choices over the course of the week.
If you are truly eating what you want to eat then it should be a joy to you and no doubt you’ll have fun doing it, but most importantly, you’ll learn masses about yourself, masses about your relationship with food, and crucially, as you do this and beyond, I recommend that the words “good” or “bad” are no longer allowed in your food-related dictionary.
As a side note, rather ironically some people find that if they’ve struggled to go raw in the past they may find themselves naturally eating more raw food without even trying, purely because the pressure is off…
Yes, we can be funny creatures. And often we can make life very difficult for ourselves and in the process become less and less forgiving and tolerant of our own humanness and vulnerabilities. And so when we eat as well as we want to we tend to just shrug it off as if nothing has happened, and when we don’t we go off in search of the nearest birch tree in order to find a very large stick to thwack ourselves with!
What I see now as being the best possible opportunity for self-growth is going to the heart of the issue rather than staying stuck in the old model of staring at the empty packets in the kitchen and shaking ourselves (and that stick) as we ask “what on earth went wrong?”
Nothing went wrong. That much I can tell you for sure.
What’s happened, mon amigo, and I think you’ll really get this now, if you don’t already, is that some aspect of you has simply piped up via your food choices and has said “Oi! All is not well buddy. Time to retreat, go within and figure out what’s really going on.”
You see the fact is, when we are calm, aligned, at peace internally and going positive places in our life, going raw or staying raw is really not an issue. In fact it’s the alpha and omega: Eating raw is what we feel like doing naturally when we’re in a good place, and by doing so, we feel better still and the circle of contentment continues to turn and “self-sprinkle”.
So conversely, when life gets a little challenging or out of balance in some way, the inner turbulence will naturally try to manifest externally too, hence reaching out for the “less than great” foods that we swore we’d never EVER eat again. And the exact opposite thing happens – the food we eat creates greater turbulence still, even though we initially thought that somehow it might actually make things better!
Getting back on track is usually not an overnight process, although we usually hope it will be. I have found that for most people three days of concerted effort is usually all it takes to get fully back on the wagon again and set off into the sunset once more. However, as above, in line with that external action absolutely has to come that “what’s up sweetie?” conversation that ideally should be a deep and meaningful with yourself until all your woes are out on the table (or, in many cases, a journal). When you have exorcised yourself emotionally, put new boundaries in place to prevent the same things happening again AND keep putting the pure food in – then you can set off once again on that oh-so-rewarding journey towards even great levels of self-awareness, health and happiness.
Remember… it’s only ever a journey!
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